Back in the market.

I just got the funniest phone call! Ok. Maybe not “ha-ha” funny. But close enough!

It was Poh Lin. Lady from another branch in church. About my mom’s age, but divorced with 4 kids and totally COOL. She is like a very, very wise teen with a stellar sense of humor in an adult body.

We went out together for dinner with a group of other singles last Saturday, overate and laughed till our sides split and our facial muscles were cramped. (Lyanne, I don’t a how to ever thank you for inviting me!) It was just a blast!

We had talked a lot about dating and mentioned many of the single and highly eligible guys in our area and one of her son’s best friends (her son is a couple years younger than me in age but 5 times older in maturity) King Sik – no clue how to spell his name – came up.

Apparently, he just decided to change his major from Architecture to just art – not sure what art – but that means he can now go to BYUH! I have been trying to sell how GREAT the school is, and I am PUMPED that he gets to go now, but I still feel really guilty for some reason.

Anyway, I thought, hmmm… I should get his email so I can talk to him... but wait, he’s less than 6000 miles away! I can call him. I used to be the girl who would organize group dates in our district or just get all the youth together and hang out – I thought maybe I’d start again. With most of my friends in my old clique gone to BYU-H, I should start a new one.

Before I get to go offensive though ,(do guys find that intimidating? Maybe that’s why I’ve only dated haoles – “how lees” white guys, for you unfamiliar with Hawaiian lingo), she calls me. Made me swear I won’t tell King Sik that she did.

She just talked to 4 of the guys, single guys, and young too, from her branch and reminded them of all the great single and available girls we have in our area – encouraged them to get out and date some. I guess she must have mentioned me. Hey, I’m one of the most highly eligible bachelorrettes around, what can I say? loL!

Ok, so maybe I used to be. At the Single Adult Convention last year, I made sure everyone knew that I had a boyfriend in the US. Might’ve used my American accent a couple of times too (hey, American is the language I think in – these blogs are written with my “American side” not to be read in a local Malaysian accent! *shudder*)

I had just come home from college then. Still VERY snotty. I think I seriously thought I was too good for Malaysians. I still don’t think that I’m completely one of them. But I’ve learnt to accept that being Malaysian is a huge part of me, whether I like it or not. So I’ll either deal with it or turn it around and make the best of it.

Either way, all the guy single adults still know me as “the girl with the American boyfriend” and don’t even know my name.

Hehe. That’s funny. Because everyone knows Faye. Faye wants everyone to know her. She collects people who like her. People who don’t know Faye will know Pres. Chong, Faye’s father. Even in BYU Hawaii, people I hadn’t met before know me as “Roy Thong’s niece” (Roy is my Singaporean uncle who went to BYUH way back when)

I come from a family of celebrities. We’re one of the most active families in the church. We’ve been around a long time. I don’t say that to boast. We’re not all that great, but we really do love the church and when you’ve been around a while, people just know you. Most of the single adults here now are converts (the ones who are not are away at BYU). They expect a lot from us “born into the church” kids. As they should.

Oh dear, I got sidetracked again! Back to the phone call…

Poh Lin told me she gave at least one of them (King Sik) my number and basically tried to sell them to me and I guess she really didn’t say it, but I suppose she wants me to like play along and do something with them. I would’ve anyway so no prob.

Unfortunately, people don’t date for fun here. You get seen alone together and people assume you guys are a thing. And that’s it. No chance of meeting anyone else. You casually date 5 different guys at a time like I did at BYUH and you’re a slut or a player. Ok, I admit I’m a player maybe some of the former too. But not because I’m trying to get to know a few guys at a time!!!

So, I’m not over my breakup yet. Mark and I just told each other “I love you” again today. But hey, if I had waited till I was completely over my exes before dating again, I wouldn’t have dated Jared, Mark and all the other ones in between. I would probably still not be over Matthew or Jared now if I hadn’t forced myself to move on (ok, so maybe it wasn’t TOO hard. My eyes tend to notice guys)

Jumping into a relationship immediately on a rebound is bad. Ok, even if not on a rebound - jumping into anything is bad! (Unless it was money... like Scrooge McDuck. Oh, don't tell me you've never seen DuckTales!) Take it from me – I know. But, HELLO, I’m not looking for someone to propose to me! I just need to get out, make friends, and start working on getting my sense of humor back again. So, whose up for a date?

Poh Lin is just da bomb. She’s like my personal agent. She’s EVERYONE’S personal agent. I hope I can find someone for her. She deserves it. So, are there any straight up LDS single men in your 40s out there who don’t mind an instant family?

Bottom line is, I now have a cute guy’s number (I said he's cute, not "I want to marry him"!) And he has mine. I wonder who will call who first?